View Full Version : I am so frustrated
08-02-2006, 11:37 AM
Hubby doesn't think there is enough money in starting a businesss and he thinks instead of starting one up I should get a part time job. Thats not working out becasue I would have to work on his days off and no on will hire me for only 2 days a week. So he wants to go to a company that he thinks will hire him, long story. so basically the kids and I wont see him hardley at all so that we can pay our bills.
I would rather start up a company than have him never be here, not to mention I am concered about his health and working himself to death.
I am getting no support and unformtunatly he makes the money. He wont give me anything to start up, not that we have a lot but I figure I need 200.00 to get the company moving.
08-02-2006, 07:36 PM
My husband used to be that way!I understand where you are coming from!Have you sat him down and talked to him?What kind of company are you starting?Sometimes starting a part time job will help out in the beginning and then have the business on the side?Hang in there!If you need to talk more you can PM me!
08-03-2006, 08:17 AM
I'm trying to start up a Welcome Service. He doesn't have aproblem wih the business its self just no extra cash to throw in that direction right now. The part time job isn't working for me, no phone calls for the 7 apps I put out yesterday. I can only work on hubby's time off. Hubby thinks we can make more money at apart time job instead of running a company and hoping to eventually make money from.
08-03-2006, 01:06 PM
I so hear you. I found a little mini e-book and worksheets that give you ideas on how to raise money fairly quickly. Let me find it for you, I hope it'll help.
08-03-2006, 01:08 PM
Ok, here it is is: 12 Ways to fund your business even if you don't have a dime (http://www.bizymoms.com/money.html)
Good luck. I hope it all goes well for you. I do have one question, though. What's a welcome service?
08-03-2006, 01:10 PM
nm, I answered my own question. There's also this (http://www.bizymoms.com/cart/careers/index.html) if you look atthe bottom of the page there's a part about welcoming services. HTH!
08-03-2006, 06:01 PM
Sometimes is just takes a hubby a while to come around to an idea that does not line up with their pre-conceived concept of a "solution." Assuming that your hubby is at the very least reasonable enough to listen through a well thought out plan, your first step is to make a simple plan for your business. This "plan" does not need to be a full detailed business plan but it should at the very least contain the following if you want to convince your hubby (and assure yourself) that your plan is best:
What exactly is the service or product I am offering?
Who am I targeting as a customer (be specific-generalities are profit killers!)
Why does my target customer "need" my offering?
How will I expose my target customer to my offer?
How much will that cost?
What is required to recover this cost? (example: 10 new customers who subscribe to "X" service or buy "X" dollar amount of product)
What is required to make a profit that exceeds what I would make at a part-time job? (This is the deal maker or breaker for your hubby)
What goals have I personally set that make this possible?
And Last but Not Least...How will this benefit my hubby!! (just for you)
As for the part-time job search...I know it is easy to look at 7 "no-calls" from applications as a disappointment but you have simply eliminated 7 companies that do not fit your schedule. Your goal should be to eliminate all the companies you can so you can eventually see the one company that has the perfect part-time schedule for you (assuming the business idea turns out not to be best at this time.) Working at home is very possible but it must be done only when it works best for you and your family. Hope this helps!
08-04-2006, 01:54 PM
Greetings! You can also apply for a business grant from your state or from an agency in your state that benefits women who want to start there own business. Best wishes-
Home & Garden Party
This is the day that the Lord has made; we shall rejoice & be glad in it."
08-08-2006, 11:13 PM
what i would do..... try your best to find a part time job to help pay for the new business you want to start!! i would even look at graveyard shift jobs. we are not talking forever jobs here, just long enough to get bills paid off, and things rolling on the biz you want to start. so you won't see hubby for a while. its not forever.
08-09-2006, 07:54 AM
Do you have specific information on grants? I've done quite a bit of research and through that research have NEVER, NOT ONCE found a grant available to soemone who is a woman to start a for profit business.
I admit, it's been 3 years or so since I've really invested any time into this research. Do you have different information?
08-09-2006, 07:57 AM
http://usgovinfo.about.com/library/weekly/aa060400a.htm I wanted to post one of the sites I used for my research.
08-09-2006, 12:19 PM
Try Looking under "womens' business grants"/California under Google or yahoo and see what you can pull up that way. Also if you have a phone directory for your state, you should be able to find something in there under the "Small Business Administration" That is how I found information about how the state will help women minorities get started in their own business. It's worth a try & keep looking until you find something. Don't give up. God Bless-
Home & Garden Party
This is the day that the Lord has amde; we shall rejoice & be glad in it."
08-11-2006, 10:09 AM
Not that what I did would work for everyone...but I went through the exact same thing with my husband. So, I just said, "Okay...no support there!" I joined anyway. I did not have much money to get started, and I didn't want to trace the cash through my husband (I was not working at the time) so I borrowed from my parents.
I joined, got my kit, called friends and family, booked my shows, and after two parties, paid my parents back, plus had money in my pocket. I used my earnings in t he beginning to eleviate some of the grief for my husband who was working overtime and tiring. I bought groceries without asking him for money, I filled our cars with gas without asking him for money.
I never spoke of my business and though he knew I was out and about, he never asked. Then one day, he asked, "How much are you earning?!" He was suprised to discover how much I was making because he realized I was hardly ever away from home (my parents helped with kids so I could do shows a couple times a week at first). Once he realized how much I could earn in silence, he got so excited, we both started running our mouths! He even started to help me recruit! And before we knew it, we had a pretty prosperous little thing going on.
Now, like I said...it is daring...I went against my husband, did it myself, and never talked about it. That was risky, because had I failed...I could have been in huge trouble! But, it was even more motivation for me to ensure my success.
So...my vote...Follow YOUR dreams! You only live once! Live your life to the fullest!!!
08-14-2006, 05:11 PM
I just talked to my hubby about starting with a candle company and got the same reaction so I think I'm gonna try what you did. See if thsi works out. My biggest concern is getting people to book and show up to parties. But I will give it a try.
08-14-2006, 06:47 PM
What a wonderful story!!! I'm so glad you shared it.
It is actually very common for spouses to not immediately support their spouses business ventures. It's all common for other family members to also not offer support.
One of my suggestions is to not talk about that which we don't find support for. If the topic were public school or private school and we chose public school but our sister in law was dead set against the public school system, we would probably not discuss the subject, knowing support was not there. Business, to me is the same. If we are not finding support, speak to someone else.
I'm so excited for you that your husband joined in the business planning and is now supportive of your business.
Wishing you success.
08-14-2006, 09:41 PM
05-13-2007, 08:37 PM
How are things going?Do keep us updated on your progress!
12-27-2007, 10:47 PM
I hear ya on the part time job. They are renting your life away for a few thousand dollars a year. On an average in America, both parents are working a full time job and one or the other is either considering or already has a part time job! Follow your dreams and start, but just remember it takes time and money. Do all that you can. In terms of people, you may have to go through 10-15 before you find 1 good one....
01-24-2008, 07:29 PM
I hear you! My husband is fairly understanding about my business, but sometimes he thinks I'm waisting my time. I'm dedicated to proving him wrong though :). You might check the Small Business Administration website, they may have some program that you qualify for as well. PM me if you need to talk...
03-06-2008, 01:40 AM
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03-06-2008, 01:44 AM
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