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08-21-2004, 11:22 PM
My son is 6 years old and has bi-polar. He does extremely well in most areas except potty training. I have taken him to the pediatician and to a pediatric gastroenterologist. The specialist said that this is a result of someone trying to force him to poop on the potty before he was ready. He was in a daycare when he was 3, and the 4-year olds teacher told him that she did no change diapers and he would have to use the potty like the other chidren his age did. This is the only thing that I can think of along those lines.
I have tried to be very patient, but we can't go anywhere without SEVERAL changes. I am also concerned about school with how the other kids will treat him with stinky underwear on. ??? We tried pullups last year, but that was only permission to pee-pee in the "diaper". We are still having a hard tme getting him to pee-pee in the potty again.
10-02-2004, 04:50 PM
Try and be patient you have a special kind of child who needs patience and stability, which can be hard to give. I think once he realizes what is expected of him he may start going potty. If it is not a bodily functioning problem then it must be psychological as you think, and I personally would throw away all pullups, and diapers in the house and at school. If he does not have to use the toilet because he is wearing these things then he may just not. However, if they are not available, then he might use the toilet. I would give it at least six weeks to see any kind of improvement. It will be hard, but perhaps he is old enough to wash his own underwear when he soils them. Make sure he understand why you are doing this before you start, and remind him that you love him and only want him to nourish. If there is even a spark of religion, try praying together for his success. If he knows God is with him and has faith that he will be successful, your child may feel better. I will pray for you and your family.
In His Service, Brooke
10-07-2004, 11:29 PM
Thank you so very much. I appreciate your prayers. I try to be patient and understanding. I remember that I had problems doing "no. 2" as well. I have just asked God to help me and just tell me what to do. Goodness knows, I wouldn't want him to have bad memories of this.
It seems that he can control it at school. Thankfully, we live just 1 block away, so he goes as soon as we get home. He takes extra clothes in his backpack, as do all the children, and fortunately, he hasn't had to change.
Thank you again. Angelia :)
11-03-2004, 12:36 AM
if he is 6 he knows that he has dirty pants. he can get a wash cloth and clean himself up. he can get clean undies out of his drawer. and with my son, i gave him a lot of kool-aide and water to drink. all the time, with colorful bendy straws......
Eileen G :-)
03-10-2005, 01:42 PM
Hi, how are you dooing? I wanted to write to see if your son is progressing in his potty training and to see how you are holding up. I am continuing to pray for you and your family. God is listening to all of our prayers. As for the bad memories you hope your son does not have, I want to ask you to remember Joseph from the bible, everyone knows a little about his story. I ask that you remember that God was with him the entire time, and God was responsible for Joseph being sold into slavery and put in jail, I beleive to help build his character and strength, in order to get him ready for something much bigger than anyone imagined. Remember, God has a plan for everyone, even your son, and our hardships in life only make us stronger and help to build our character. Remember to praqise your son for the good work he is doing, and praise yourself for your hard work. Also, remember, God may be using this situation to help build your patience in order to get you ready for something else.
In His Service,
03-11-2005, 01:49 AM
I have a 5 year old. She is potty trained now BUt it was very hard. She started using th potty over the summer right before school started. I tried stickers, candy, money, bribbing her, just talking to her, giving her rubber gloves to wash her underware out herself and everything else I could think of. NOTHING worked. I was wondering how I'd send her to school wearing pull-ups. I finally gave up. One day she went in on her own and she yelled for me to come in. Here she was sitting on the potty with a book! She went!
Now I am having the same problem with my other daughter who will be 4 next month. Nothing is working.
I also have a 8 year old who wets the bed. I tried cutting drinks, waking him up every 2 hours, again NOTHING. I am taking him to the doctor to see if they can help. But if anyone has suggestions let me know.
I feel I am a bad parent at potty training but I don't think I can do anything else.
03-12-2005, 01:51 AM
If you can maybe check with a pediatrician and see what they have to say. That daycare should've never done that to your child, especially knowing that he's bi-polar. They should have someone that works with special needs children. Maybe talk with the director of the daycare and see what else to do.
03-18-2005, 04:12 PM
Try to think of when your son started to wet his bed, it may be his way of getting your attention if the doctor says there is not anyhting wrong with his blatter. Try reassuring good behavior and ignoring bad, or unwanted behavior. Or, is he afraid to get up at night? How far is the bathroom, is it dark, is he afraid of someone in the house?
In His Service
06-01-2005, 03:31 PM
You can always check out articles and the boards at http://www.parents.com maybe get feedback from someone that has been through this rather than doctors that are just guessing what it could be. Get 2nd and 3rd opinions, whatever you need to do until you find something that works for you. If you are having trouble with daycare see if you can find one in the area that works with special needs children. They are out there, just have to find them.
06-01-2005, 04:58 PM
Did you check with the urologic doctor,may be your child have frequente incontinence urination. I went so many doctor before I'd got the right one.
I hope this will help you.
Thank you .
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