I need help my child is biting

thebizmom · #1 01-19-2007, 10:15 PM

I have a problem with my oldest child. She bites. She has been biting for about a year, and I can't get her to stop. I have tried biting her back, and time-outs, I've also tried just talking with her and nothing is helping. I have started up a dayhome and finally got it running, and I am afraid that if she continues to bite this little boy I'm not going to have any children in my dayhome. What do I do?

Kethry · #2 01-19-2007, 11:37 PM

I don't know how old your daughter is, but with my son when he would bite us, we'd over-react, really play up the "Ow, ow, you hurt me, you make me very sad when you do that" angle. He'd cry because he hurt us and the biting stopped. We didn't yell, didn't make it angry, but hurt and upset.

Don't know if that helps, but it might be worth a try. Good luck, that's a really hard stage to get through.

thebizmom · #3 01-19-2007, 11:54 PM

My daughter is 2.5. The thing is she doesn't bite us, she bites either her little sister or the little boy that comes over, and I'm worried that when I have another little girl come over she might eventually bite her.

Kimiyo · #4 02-18-2007, 07:09 PM

I used to babysit for church associate and my son bit one girl (He was about your daughter's age). I was a new mom and didn't have much experience with parenting back then. Now I'm a mom with 4 children having kindergartener to teenager, I have better idea, I think. One thing you really need to do is you need to be very firm. Even little kids know if you are really really serious or not. I remember when I was trying to wean my baby just because I thought it's over one year and time to wean, it didn't work at all. But as soon as I got pregnant and knew I really can't breastfeed her, she gave up. Well, I was very serious, too. I let her cry out one night. But I was really determined. Ask yourself if you are really serious about your daycare business and what it means to you. If you really value your business, yes, you can overcome this problem. If you are thinking of quitting in case you can't stop her from biting, maybe your reason why you want to do your business is not quite strong enough. Or if you think there's no choice for your daughter, if you determine that her only coice is to stop biting, she can stop. Again, I remember my son (this is same one who bit ) use to take things from my friend's house every time we visit someone. He finds something he wants then, he wouldn't let it go when it's time to go home. I wasn't firm. Somewhere in my mind, I felt he should be excused to take the toy since he was too small to understand and usually he won. But he got in trouble a few times because sometimes he wasn't allowed. I realized he shouldn't think he can take things from somebody's home just because he wanted and I became very firm with him. Then he gave up.

Sorry, it got so long but I can relate to you 100% and I hope it helps.

Rosalee · #5 02-25-2007, 05:14 PM

All of the ideas above are good ideas- however, have you talked to your child & told her that 1. it's not nice to bite others?? Let he/she come back to you & ask why & explain that "it REALLY hurts" when they bite someone else.Ask he/she how would it feel if someone bit her? Would she like it? and go from there.

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